Questions about “My Dear” by Bethel Music

June 20, 2012

(I posted this originally on my personal blog but felt it needed a place here as well. Comments welcomed!)
There is a sweet spot in writing worship music that keeps songs on the mark. What’s the mark? It’s the intersection of doxology and orthodoxy. It’s best described by the combination of passages in Ephesians and Colossians that speak to singing to the Lord.

“And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart… (Ephesians 5:18-19 ESV)

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” – (Colossians 3:16 ESV)

The intersection here is one in which doxology and orthodoxy are tied to one another. The result should be songs that both point the church to God in praise while enriching the church theologically.  When we wander off this axis we end up promoting worship that can sit at the dead end of intellectual snobbery or the off road rabbit trails of romanticism. The post previous to this highlights the song “Now Why This Fear?” released by Sovereign Grace Music. It’s a great example of the intersection resulting in passionate praise that is theologically rich. It’s worship that lifts the heart and grounds the soul.

When I came across a song today that was released recently by Bethel Music, it raised some questions for me. The song is called “My Dear.” I’ve watched the video and read the lyrics several times. These people are great musicians and capture much of what’s popular from the Coldplay “whoa-ohs” to the Mumford and Sons instrumentation.  The people in the video exude the kind of joy and ardor that I’ve come to expect from those associated with Bethel Music. Here’s the question: Is the song intended as a performance or is it a song developed for the church? If it’s an artistic performance piece then I would just leave it alone. On the other hand, if it’s for the church then it deserves scrutiny. Bobby Giles of Sojourn Music recently asked, “why do pastors and theologians pick on songwriters?”  His answer was short and to the point:

“We put words in people’s mouths, which they will sing in church services as well as their homes, cars and other places throughout the week as they worship God. If you don’t feel the weight of this responsibility, you should. You must.”

So, if I am evaluating a song like this as a pastor as well as a worship leader, my conclusion is that it would not be used in our worship. Why? Because it wanders away from that sweet spot towards sentimental romanticism.  I’m not suggesting that every song has to be a theological treatise. Indeed, we need songs that allow us to focus our hearts, close our eyes, lift our hands and sing with abandon. However, there is a point in which a lyric can deteriorate into little more than romanticized words repeated ad nauseam.  It’s catchy to say the least, but referring to God as “My Dear” over and over again highlights a growing tendency towards feminizing God the Father and helping to distance an already alienated male culture within the church. The word “ravish” shows up in this song as it has in a number of others. It’s a word used once in Song of Solomon (4:9) and Proverbs (5:19), and it’s  questionable because ravish is a word more often used to describe overpowering someone sexually. (Jud. 20:5; Is. 13:16; Lam. 5:11; Zec. 14:2) It’s a kinder word than rape and that’s why it shows up in trashy romance novels quite a bit.  It’s current usage in our dictionaries is overwhelmingly negative and should at least cause us to consider our use of it.

Nice tune. Well played. Great lyrics? Useful to the church?  I’d be interested in what you think.

My Dear
Hunter Thompson
Bethel Music

I am Yours and You are mine
I am ravished by the sight
Of one glimpse into Your eyes
My lover’s coming for His bride

For there is none upon the earth
That I desire before You, Lord
For You’ve been faithful all my days
Your love endures, it’ll never fade away

I need to say what my soul is singing
I need to say what my heart is screaming
I need to say what my soul is singing
I need to say what my heart is screaming

That I love You my Dear,
That I love You my Dear, my Dear
That I love You my Dear,
That I love You my Dear, my Dear

You’re everything I ever wanted
Everything I ever needed
You’re everything I ever wanted
Everything I ever needed
You’ve ravished my heart, You’ve ravished my
You’re everything I ever wanted
Everything I ever needed
You’ve ravished my heart

That I love You my Dear,
That I love You my Dear, my Dear
That I love You my Dear,
That I love You my Dear, my Dear

37 responses to Questions about “My Dear” by Bethel Music

  1. Charlotte Curry June 20, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    I can see why this song (My Dear) might be something very young people could like: it has all the requisite components a good band, a beat, fine young singers. As a mature follower of Jesus (and perhaps that is the crux of the matter..the “mature” part!), the Holy Spirit didn’t speak to me or draw me into worship with the song. I found myself thinking it could have been written and sung for any of the girls and boys in the audience with the change of a couple of words in order to become a crossover tune. And, maybe the band was performing it more than they were using it to worship. I love what many of the writers and composers are doing now…updating the old hymns for worship to new tunes. I became really concerned that many churches had thrown all the traditional music out entirely and there would be whole generations that would miss singing those great old hymns of faith like “A Mighty Fortress”, etc. I’m not much for “whoa_ohs”. Try to avoid them whenever possible.

    • To me, the fact that a song/lyric like this is being seriously considered is a troubling sign. IMO, this is obviously not worthy of any worship service, young or old, that seeks to sincerely glorify God.

  2. Blake Simpson June 20, 2012 at 6:37 pm

    I’ve been saying this for years, but not just about fluffy, romantic lyrics. Anytime a song declares the singer’s specific emotion (i.e, lost and alone, bursting with joy, etc.), it will almost certainly ring false with somebody in the congregation. “You do all things well, just look at our lives,” chirped Kevin Prosch back in the 90s, while somebody in the pews dutifully mouthed words that had nothing to do with the suicidal or murderous thoughts they were actually wrestling with. My own songs are accordingly mined straight from Scripture, and vetted by my pastor before I put them up on the overhead projector. The kids out in Redding don’t know any better – it’s doubtful that anybody has ever told them about singing ‘the full counsel of God’, or that crossing over to a broader audience (itself a worthy pursuit) should draw the unchurched listener into a deeper place, instead of a puddle of treacle. But lest we pillory Bethel and Jesus Culture exclusively, I have heard this same sort of thing from artists on most of the major praise and worship labels, maybe just not to this extent. These people are too talented and too passionate for Christ to be allowed to slip unthinking farther and farther into this unedifying trend. Even if there’s no one in your congregation over 40, you might still consider the rich history of congregational singing and consider whether your music will be a highlight or a blemish on that history.

    • That is part of the problem Blake. We have so segregated the church age wise that the kind of crossover that brings balance and wisdom is often missing. It’s appropriate that the new issue of Christianity Today’s feature article is “When Are We Going to Grow Up? The Juvenilization of American Christianity”

  3. In the same way that not all of the hymns were great nor doctrinally sound, the trend has only gotten worse as the church has decided it ‘has found a better way to reach the lost’ through ‘hipper’ music and lyrics. We should be the *alternative* to the world, not the ‘religious equivalent’.

  4. The whole ‘My Dear’ just doesn’t work for me. One of the joys of my walk with the Trinity is that, as I draw closer to Him and walk more personally with Christ, the more aware of just how NOT ‘my dear’ He is, at least to me – the more magnificent, the more Holy, the more Adonai, the more Elohim and further away from ‘my dear’. I MIGHT send the link to this song to my younger worship team members (although there is so much good stuff out there, most likely not) – but I would not use it with the congregation….just my two cents.

    • Thanks for commenting Maggie. I agree that our growing knowledge of God should result in greater awe. There’s a place for intimacy but it must be rooted in our acknowledgement of God’s majestic glory.

  5. I believe the modern church is in sad shape and needs to repent of such silly and shallow songs/lyrics – no one should be singing this vapid stuff before an audience of saints OR seekers. Again, the fact that we are seriously discussing such ‘fluff’ is a seriously bad sign…. Wake Up Church!
    Forget Bethal, forget Hillsong, forget ANY group who mass produces praise music – instead, judge each song/lyric on it’s individual merit, and let that alone be the reason you sing it during worship!

    • Hadley, I think you make a good point – we tend to accept what comes out of the “camps” that we enjoy and often accept what they produce without a critical eye toward the content. To be honest, I know I did some of that with the early Maranatha and Vineyard stuff. It was just so great to have fresh relate-able music! Even so, a cool hook just can’t determine a song’s value to corporate worship. We can do better.

  6. I like being able to read lyrics to worship songs before hearing them, because it gives me a more objective perspective; I’m as susceptible to good music as the next music-loving girl. So I read these lyrics before watching the video, and I can sum up my reaction with two words: Oh Dear.
    Most of the points have already been made here, but I’d like to reiterate that the word “ravish” really never ever belongs in a worship song, just like “my Dear” is a completely inappropriate way to address God. And all other objections that have been raised, I second.
    (Now that I’m listening to the music, I’d classify it as OK and moderately catchy, but nothing special. So hopefully that aspect won’t hoodwink too many people into using this song.)

    • Thanks for commenting Martha. I think you make a really good point in the words “susceptible to music” – ain’t it the truth? We’re so enamored with musical hooks that we get hooked into singing nonsense just because it’s set to a great tune!

  7. Blake Simpson June 21, 2012 at 2:03 am

    Right, Hadley – the fact that we’re even discussing it isn’t conceptually that far off from a debate on the pros and cons of Christian meth labs or casinos. The current Zeitgeist, or Spirit of the Age, is an ‘anything-goes’ mentality that must be countered with wisdom (readily available from some of us old guys) and even good old common sense. The are ‘secular’ songs such as The Who’s ‘Bargain’ or Eric Johnson’s ‘All About You’ that do more to lead me into God’s presence than any number of sanitized four-chord jingles you have to sit (or stand) through on Sunday morning.

  8. these are the same lines of discussion that my father in law said they had when he was a young man in the AOG He is now 92 and that we had when I was a young man

  9. And the point is?

  10. I think the music is catchy and I have no reason to doubt that the band is sincere. But I appreciated this quote by Martha:

    “I like being able to read lyrics to worship songs before hearing them, because it gives me a more objective perspective; I’m as susceptible to good music as the next music-loving girl.”

    It is true that we’re called the “Bride of Christ” but there is nothing connected with that term in the New Testament that would compare with lyrics about being ravished by “one sight of the glimpse into your eyes” or repeating “My dear” over and over.

    We know that the gospel is an offense to unbelievers, yet we should fervently declare the gospel. But we don’t need to go out of our way to be offensive in other areas. And lyrics like this are a stumbling block, particularly to many males (inside the church and out).

    I understand the poetic impulse to take “bride of Christ” and say “Wouldn’t it be powerful to come up with romantic and sexual metaphors?” However, I feel like it’s a misguided impulse. And many in the church make too much of a metaphorical understanding of Song of Solomon, too. Remember that at it’s core, Song of Solomon is literally a poem of romance, between a man and a woman.

  11. Great post!

    I vaguely remember an article by the late Chuck Colson bemoaning contemporary praise songs “that wouldn’t be out of place in a bar.” This song fits squarely in that category.

    I think you’ve nailed the issue with the Ephesians and Colossians passages — we have a God that desires worshippers who will worship Him “in spirit and truth.” Our falling in love with the Savior of our souls needs to be a realization of the depths of our depravity and the extent of his limitless love towards us.

  12. Interesting comments. This is a response to the first order question of life – why are we here on this earth – and my simple answer is that Father God promised His Son a Bride and we are it. It is documented in the Bible from Genesis to Revelation were there is a “great wedding feast”. Relationship with God is all about passion. This is really all we can give Him. He has all glory, dominion, honor, etc. All He wants from is to be voluntary lovers. We can only give Him glory by becoming who He has called us to be. Love the song and not sure why anyone would think this is not theologically sound or acceptable to God. He loves for us to love His Son.

    Just for reference, I am 70 and and weep when I hear songs like this.

    • Before I respond to Joe, let me state – I do not question for a moment that sincere and earnest praise of those who comprise Bethel Music. I have enjoyed a number of their works. This has nothing to do with questioning the motives of people. It’s a question about the wisdom we use in leading the people of God in worship. Worship is formative and we have a solemn requirement to lead responsibly. So questions about it are needful and right.

      I appreciate the feedback Joe. I know that you are passionate about loving God with all your mind, strength and heart. Would that we all were completely abandoned to the Father in that way. We certainly are the Bride of Christ and the fullest devotion of our love should be poured at Jesus feet. The question that arises is how far we take metaphors. According to scripture, I am God’s Temple – but no one would suggest that I plant myself somewhere stationary and not move. We are the body of Christ and while it’s appropriate to speak of hands, feet, eyes and ears, how far do we really want to take that? All metaphors point to great realities but you can break the back of a metaphor. When we use terms like lovers or worse, terms that refer to forced sexual activity, we are putting far to much weight on the metaphor. (I’ve heard people use sexual intercourse as a metaphor for worship. The idea of “God” having intercourse with a human is one of the troublesome “doctrines” that Joseph Smith served up to the Mormons.) God’s primary family relationship to me is that of Father. Jesus primary family relationship to me as an individual is my Savior/Brother – my Co-heir of the Father. We should be wary of language that becomes almost incestuous.

      • Incestuous? WOW!!!!! I would have never gone there with this song. And while I do recognize Christ as my savior and Jesus as my brother, I also believe that what He did in salvation is reconciled me to my Father so that I have become a new creation with me becoming a dwelling place (like a temple) for the Holy Spirit. But I am not just saved here on this earth, I am saved for eternity to reign and rule with the son forever as something He has called a Bride. It is God’s words, so I would have a hard time equating that with incest.

        • Well, to be accurate, I did not say it was. You’re focused on this song and I am focused on a larger trajectory that bears caution. My words where that we “should be wary of language that becomes almost incestuous.” If you read my follow-up post I think you will see more of what I am trying to say. Nothing you have said above is something I would disagree with. Not for a minute do I suggest that we are not the Bride of Christ or that it should not be celebrated. I’m suggesting that we have to be careful that we don’t try to make the metaphor bear more weight than it should. I could take some words and images from Song of Solomon and write a love song to God that would probably never see the light of day in the church because it would simply be over the line. I’m simply saying the line is there (see the next post) and we should be aware of it. As for this particular song that just happens to be a catalyst for the thoughts? Sing away! We won’t use it in corporate worship at CR but I certainly don’t take offense to anyone who does.

          On another note, Saint Francis by Kristene Mueller comes out of the same stream and I sing that regularly at prayer gatherings although I make it about Virginia and the sun shining on Blue Ridge mountain peaks. So the baby is safe. Just think the bath water needs to be looked at occasionally. 😉

  13. Love the song! What I really like about it is that you could take it out of a worship context and place it in any video venue and have an equally vibrant response from just about anybody who listened to it, Christian or not!
    This is a great band who has produced some great worship songs. This is not one of them (a worship song, that is). This is, indeed, a good song, well played. A worship song, though, should be without compromise, an adulation of God, who He is, His attributes and what He has done. Any song that would play well in any venue will inherently compromise that proclamation of his greatness. I read the lyrics carefully and could see myself having to explain to an unsaved person who heard it, that it was a song about God and Jesus Christ. I can also see their response being something like, “Cool! I would never have known that if you hadn’t told me.”
    Worship is not designed to appeal to the world, it is designed to be a sweet aroma to God.

    • So how does responding to God’s word about becoming the Bride of Christ not adulation of who He is and what His attributes are. Don’t imagine this was composed as a “evangelical” song but rather one for worship by believers. I have seen a video of believers worshiping to this song and it was awesome. We actually use it in prayer sets.

      I would love for this song to provoke a question from an unbeliever about what it meant. I could spend hours talking about love, passion, emotions, father, brides, eternity, etc. To me, this song has the “aroma of the Father” all over it. In fact I do agree that the “sniff test” is always a good check when you hear sermons, songs, teachings, etc.

  14. Jeff, it’s always good to evaluate what music the church is using today. Limits get stretched, sometimes culturally and for the good (where would contemporary worship be with out that) and sometimes beyond what is acceptable and edifying. Some are not stumbled or reluctant to sing such a song as “My Dear”. I for one don’t gravitate to singing to the Lord, “my dear”. It doesn’t connect internally for me though I am all about being passionate for the Lord. I also wouldn’t use it in congregational worship. Thanks!

    • I really resonate with your reply, Chris. I think we, too often, try to supplant corporate worship, where there are many hearts and many levels of spiritual development and growth, with personal worship where we deal with only one heart. IMHO, when we get into an exchanges that demands as much explanation and interpretation as this one has, it may be suitable for private worship in our prayer closet, but for our congregation at least, it would not be suitable for corporate worship. Our folks would not see this as a corporate worship song. I am fully aware that it is supposed to adulate God. It seems to me that it would be more helpful to those who are newer to the faith, or younger in their walk, if His name was actually mentioned in more than a circumspect way.

  15. I see no difference between the meaning of the words in this song and the meaning of the words in the song of Solomon– one is just a little more modern than the other. Of course, some would say that the Song of Solomon is too mature for the general audience, but the bible doesn’t come with “explicit” tags. I don’t think this song is explicit or inappropriate– Also, the use of the word “dear” is not gender exclusive– my wife calls me dear all the time, just as I call her. It’s a simple and effective expression of “endearment”.
    Sentimental romanticism or not, this song still holds to a biblical concept that had an entire book dedicated to it.

    • PJ – Thanks for your comments. I appreciate your input. I was intrigued by your comment that the Bible doesn’t come with “explicit” tags. Here’s the question: is there a line of what is appropriate in the general worship setting? For instance how would you incorporate the following?

      My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh that lies between my breasts.
      (Song of Solomon 1:13 ESV)

      Would you have a female worship leader singing that out? Would the brothers feel comfortable singing to the Lord in this way? Same inspired scripture.

      Would we offer the following in a “prophetic song?”

      Your navel is a rounded bowl
      that never lacks mixed wine.
      Your belly is a heap of wheat,
      encircled with lilies.
      Your two breasts are like two fawns,
      twins of a gazelle…
      ..How beautiful and pleasant you are,
      O loved one, with all your delights!
      Your stature is like a palm tree,
      and your breasts are like its clusters.
      I say I will climb the palm tree
      and lay hold of its fruit.
      Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine,
      and the scent of your breath like apples…
      (Song of Solomon 7:2-9 ESV)

      Would there be any hesitation there? If not, why? As for the Biblical concept that “had an entire book dedicated to it..” What concept are you referring to?

      If you get the chance, please read the follow-up post here: http://yourworshiptools.com/to-ravish-or-not-to-ravish/
      It will explain my thoughts a bit more.
      Thanks again!

      • Thank you for your insightful reply.
        To the extreme, I wouldn’t feel that it’s appropriate to sing a literal song of Solomon in a corporate setting but I don’t see a problem with taking some of the concepts and tastefully applying them to a worship song that emphasizes intimacy and love, in a creative poetic way.
        Ravish as a poetic term means to be filled with intense delight, it is synonymous with enrapture. It carries no negative meaning whatsoever in a modern day literary or poetic context.
        While I also sense a lack in today’s worship in the American church, I have some other reasons for it… namely entertainment being valued and sought over spiritual substance , along with worship leaders who are not actually exemplary spiritual leaders being tasked to “lead songs”.
        Bless you Pastor, I always appreciate and respect your teachings and values.

  16. Jeff,
    Sorry for the delay in following up with a comment. I think you’ve presented a very balanced and biblically critical review of this particular song. And I would agree that this particular composition does not have a valuable place in communal/corporate worship expression, no matter where a congregation may fall on the theological spectrum. I, too, find the metaphor struggling and the content less than formative. I appreciate the balanced perspective you took in evaluating, the reasoned response you wrote, and that you didn’t just slam it into the dirt as so others have done in similar situations.

    My one suggestion would be to attempt to dialogue with Hunter and the Bethel Music gang. Perhaps they are not fully aware of how some it can be perceived, or, as another poster commented, haven’t been challenged in some of these things. I, too, have no doubt of their love and desire to worship and honor Christ, but all of us have room for growth until we are in the presence of Jesus.

    Thanks for the practical example and insight into this process. I hope many worship leaders take this example and use it to further evaluate what they are leading their congregation in each week. That it is true, rich, and formative. That it resonates in spirit AND truth, and is not just used because it’s popular or catchy. They have been songs I’ve liked at times, but have known that it wouldn’t be a good choice corporately for a number of reasons.

    Blessing as you lead and shepherd the congregation you serve in worship.

    • Chris,

      Thanks for the reply. I appreciate your thoughts. The river banks of “true, rich and formative” are great protections that give us freedom to enjoy the river of God’s Spirit!

      Jeff

  17. I know it’s an old post, but I wanted to touch on this subject again.

    Here’s something interesting about this song that I haven’t seen anyone post about yet: go to the 0:09 second mark of the video, and look at the girl singer shaking her body in front of all those brothers. Can you say “stumbling block”?

    The really sad thing about “My Dear” is that it’s just another symptom of a major disease in the body of Christ right now, a disease known as a “lack of discernment”. We sing so many songs and absorb so much doctrine without actually evaluating it according to the Word of God and being sensitive to the Spirit’s warning and convicting. If we had just an ounce more of discernment, it would make a world of difference – a crucial difference.

  18. I came across this post because I thought I would do some background research on my favorite song (at this time in my life) that I’m presenting to my class for a music review. It was very insightful to read the blog and all the comments. I am a seventeen year old girl who has just recently learned (within the last year really) what it really means to TRULY FALL IN LOVE WITH GOD. Sure, I’ve always said I love God and really mean it, but I can’t even describe the love I have with Him NOW that has developed really just this past year due to lessons I’ve learned and experienced recently. One of those lessons actually includes how we are the ‘Bride of Christ’.
    Anyway, I know this whole discussion is on what we should use as worship songs IN A CONGRAGATION, but I just wanted to say what this song means to me . . .
    When I fist heard this song, I was completely enveloped in God’s love. When I do think of it now, the whole song is meant to be song to God but for some reason, before now, I always felt like God was the one calling me “My dear”. All the other parts were my words to him though, haha. It was just that way subconsciously… another thing I found amusing is that the lyric, “you ravish my heart” was actually my favorite line. I can’t exactly explain why, but I thought it was the closest thing to describing God’s effect on my heart. I never even THOUGHT of it as a ‘sexual’ reference. But even so, and I have to be so careful in saying this but I hope I’m understood… Our world has completely perverted sex. Sex is a BEAUTIFUL thing meant to be shared between husband and wife and if you truly study what God purposed sex to be from the Bible you would understand that our relation with our spouse is meant to be a reflection of our relation with God. Now I’m not saying relation as ‘intercourse’ with God, but again if you understand the true purpose of sex, there’s so much more to it than intercourse. So personally, I don’t think the use of the word ravish is bad at all… in the world’s eyes it may be but it shouldn’t be that way.
    So anyway, I love this song! It always makes me feel like dancing in the presence of the Lord bare feet… and the video where you can watch Bethel perform, I think, is such a blessing because every time I watch it, it’s as if I can feel the Holy Spirit just over flow from my computer screen! They are in such awe and on fire for God that I’m just so encouraged myself every time I hear the song.
    I only hope that if this song shouldn’t be included for worship in a congregation than may other songs help bring people to fall in love with God so much that they get to the point of being so IN LOVE with Him and can say these words and truly mean them in their hearts. 🙂

  19. Who are we to judge the sincerity of another’s worship? Is it not one of the most intimate experiences one can have with our father?

  20. Dont really know what the fuss is about.I’m in nigeria and the song is my ringtone. I see God calling me my dear and not the other way around. Hosea 2:16..God actually says we will call him ‘ishi’ my darling in hebrew. Its people who are self righteous that think otherwise. I wonder hw that man saw the lady in the video. It shows how renewed our minds are. coming on a blog to judge people. Have you bothered asking them theirselves?

  21. I stumbled on this article while trying to track down information on the individual singing this song. After reading this, I felt like I had to reply with a few points.

    1) Ravish is really not the word you make it out to be. Ravish is a word to describe filling someone/something with joy, intense delight, or happiness. A synonym would be enthrall or captivate. I can’t think of a better way to look at God. Can the word be used for other meanings? Absolutely, but I think we’re digging a little too deeply into something that is meant to praise. If you look at the dictionary definition (assuming you have, as it’s referenced), any of the negative connotations are listed after the one I’ve mentioned.

    2) If you haven’t taken a moment to look back at what actually was done for us (I know you have) and had any other response than “I love You, I need You, You’re amazing,” then I must be doing it all wrong. That doesn’t make it sentimental romanticism… it’s a very real and passionate response. There is absolutely something to be said for enriching a church theologically through worship. There is also a lot to be said for simply worshiping and praising a God that gave up His throne, took on human form, died the most despicable death imaginable, and then went through hell (literally) simply because He loved us. He chose to do that because of a passionate love the likes of which we will NEVER imagine. If that type of grace and love doesn’t elicit a response of “Oh God… I love You” from us or our churches, then we’ve missed the point. Both of what was done for us and the song.

    3) You took issue with the words “My Dear” in the song as it feminizes God and alienates men. If men are alienated in church, then the issue is taking place outside of worship in the lack of community being built. Whether the particular culture being created is causing it or a lack of resources for men is the root cause, the words “My Dear” should not cause men to stream out of our churches. Our churches should be the types of places that are contagious because the presences of God is there. The same God that can heal broken hearts, marriages, lives, break addictions, heal the sick… He is there. If men aren’t dragging themselves, their families, and everyone they know to be there, we have a culture problem – not a worship lyric problem.

    I would like to say, however, that this song does connect very well with a younger generation. Both musically and lyrically, younger folks will connect with this and maybe open up in worship like the won’t by reciting a Psalm. If our churches do not have a large focus on reaching that next generation, they will be extinct very soon. At that point, eternities can be lost quickly. If the church is there to lead as many people into a relationship with Jesus Christ, as He told us to do, then we really need to consider all generations. This includes the worship music we welcome in our churches. If we look at the average age of our community and the average age of our church doesn’t match it, we are only a generation away from closing the doors and losing that generation and many behind it. Maybe being open to a song like this one is a step in the direction of avoiding that.

  22. Lover of Christ July 5, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    I think the song is fine everyone worships in their own way just because it’s not the way you worship does not make it far away from God. He will accept a worship from a heart that’s worshiping Him purely and genuinely. Also realise that that the way you worship is far more different from the way they worshiped in the Bible

  23. As a young girl who struggles with self image, I listen to this song a lot and it reminds me of how Christ would speak to me. I think its all about how someone interprets lyrics that sparks a desire to worship. No lyrics or words are the worship, it’s the heart. When I hear this song, I begin to worship. Not with these words, but with thanks and praise and intimacy to God.